I'm a registered psychologist in Langley helping people achieve greater satisfaction in their relationships at home, work and with friends. I also provide treatment for anxiety, depression, stress, trauma, and chronic pain as well as help people through stress and life's transitions. I use short-term (cognitive-behavioural) and long-term (interpersonal-psychodynamic) approaches in individual and group therapy for adults. In addition, I provide consultation, supervision, workshops and continuing education experiences. Please call me so that I can answer any questions you have about my practice and to see if I am a good fit for you.
We all have a need to be connected to others and to avoid being hurt. It's how we uniquely try to accomplish both that creates our personality and can also indicate what needs to be changed. For example, some people will focus on connecting with others and overlook how to protect themselves from being hurt. Others have developed strong skills in avoiding rejection at the expense of having closer relationships. Some people may behave inconsistently, giving others unclear messages whether they want closeness or distance.
Therapy with me in using an interpersonal-psychodynamic approach will involve us working together to help you become aware of interpersonal "pulls" that lead you to act in a way that you later regret. We'll focus on current relationships, including the working or professional relationship between us. A large part of my job as your psychologist is to give you honest feedback about how you come across in relationships, and to do so in a supportive manner to help you more directly get your needs met. This can be accomplished in a powerful way by catching ourselves in the moment to sort through when your intentions don't match your behaviour, or what to do when you experience a "pull".
I work similarly in group therapy which is a powerful and effective method for treating interpersonal difficulties like having a hard time saying "no", finding others hurt by your honest feedback, repeating patterns in relationships from childhood experiences, having difficulty at work because of relationships with authority figures, avoiding conflict. Give me a call if the way I work fits for you. I'd be happy to answer any further questions you have in how we might work together.